Porn Stars Stoya, Asa Akira & More Share How They Told Their Families | Iris

published on July 2, 2020

I think I talk about my sex life with my

parents the same amount as like most

people talk about their sex lives with

their parents which is not very much at

all

I got home from avian one year and I had

spoke into The Wall Street Journal about

my feelings regarding HD video and that

it was actually kind of possible that my

grandmother might find out about my job

by surprise so I called her and she

answered and you're like hi how are you

great okay and she goes

so what doing to support yourself

because your mother says you're like a

model but if you were a model she

wouldn't say like and no offense dear

but you're a bit short I'm like well do

you know Bettie Page just like yes I'm

like okay it's like that except no

clothing most of the time and on video

and we're actually having sex and she

goes oh so you're a nudie girl yeah

she's like you like it

okay it's a job but yeah I like it

largely she was great I had to tell you

something else she's like following that

what could you possibly have to say name

links so I'm using your name

oh oh no and I'm like man if we got

through the porn fit like I really

thought that was gonna be the problem

but this is the problem man this is bad

I think what's the oh no and she says

well I hope none of the men at the home

get us confused and try to put my feet

behind my head she had one of the best

reactions that I've heard like it's it's

pretty rare for a family member to be

like like cool and like I'm gonna joke

about this repeatedly especially someone

who's

Grandparent a few years ago I wrote a

book or edited a book called coming out

like a porn star and I created this book

because I was coming to terms with the

fact that I was gonna have to tell my

parents eventually that I was doing porn

because I didn't want them to find out

on their own

I asked co-stars how they came out to

family members whether it was parents

siblings or their kids and I started

getting all of these stories that were

really amazing and some of them are

heartbreaking and some of them were

brought to fresh air but all of them

gave me the strength to and the

validation to to feel more prepared when

I would talk to my when I would finally

talk to my parents I was very relieved

to know that they are supportive of me

and proud of me and they know and they

trust me to take care of myself um it

still is hard insta tears I'm really

close with my parents I'm an only child

I live two blocks away from them now as

a 33 year old woman I don't think it's a

strange thing that I don't want to talk

about my sex life with my parents you

know it just so happens that my sex life

is my job yeah they'd rather me do

something else for sure my parents are

like pretty old-fashioned people but at

the same time it's like they don't love

me any less I was outed by someone the

plan was for me to eventually you tell

my parents but unfortunately that's what

happened we definitely had a strange

relationship and like didn't talk for

two years which was hard but I think it

left a lot of time for my for my family

to evolve and grow and for us to find

the tools on how to communicate

something difficult like this I think my

parents and my family seeing how I

navigated my career and the choices I

made for myself in my career was still

consistent with who I was as a person

and who I was as far as like who they

knew I had myself have come out as as

queer to my parents I think that was the

first out that I did and it was hard and

there were a lot of questions

that other queer people face when they

come out to their family members they're

like oh you know is there anything that

happened you know when you're younger

like did I do anything wrong do a

failure as a parent somehow they want an

easy life for you and they're worried

that this is going to make it harder

that's because there's so much stigma

around it that if now it's not going to

be easy and why would you choose to do

something that's gonna make it harder

right they're also worried what other

people are going to think in doing adult

films I've been invited to speak at

universities in because I did adult

films

I had the platform to write a book these

sort of like academic sort of accolades

validated my work in sex work that I

think my family members appreciated is

somehow gave it more prestige

professionalism you know that kind of

validation and I think that it's so hard

to come out to and it speaks of course

volumes to the fact that we even call it

coming out in the first place whatever

we're coming out as whether it's queer

whether it's trans polyamorous a kinky

person or a sex worker parents of porn

performers and sex workers can know what

they do and love them

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